Who are you?
Does that question excite you?
Does it stress you?
Does it depress you?
Does it make you stop and wonder?
When was the last time you paused and really thought about this? Have you purposefully become who you are today? Or has this version morphed from a series of events out of your control?
I encourage you to grab a piece of paper and pen or a device. Shut off all distractions. Take a deep breath and do your best to clear your mind. Set your timer for 10 minutes.
Over the next 10 minutes of quiet, retrace your steps. How did you get here? What are your greatest moments? Who are the people who have led you to this point? What have been your greatest challenges? What are your principles? What is most important to you? Who matters most to you? What do you stand for? What are your dreams?
Outsiders who try to define you
It is hard to find quiet time to reflect in our society. Messages, demands, and noise are everywhere. If you haven’t already decided who you are, there is a world waiting to create this definition for you.
– Those over you– how do you help the company meet the bottom line?
– Social Media– do you measure up? Is your life as exciting as your ‘friend’s’?
– Politics– do you agree with me on very point, or are you one of ‘them’?
– Movies and TV– are you as beautiful and perfect as these fictitious characters?
– Wealth– are you as rich as your neighbor, and do you have as many cool toys?
– Spouse– are you everything your spouse expects of you?
– Faith/social community– do you measure up to the expectations of your groups?
Ultimate last word about who you are
Your future is not already scripted based on your past. You are in a unique position to choose your trajectory.
Are you pleased with your current self? You can stay on this path that is working well for you.
Are you ready for change? You can change your direction, your purpose, or your values. You don’t have to be shaped by the things currently defining you.
Do you have a plan to avoid the retirement pitfalls of rapid health decline, divorce, or suicide?
Retirement Wellness Strategies
At Retirement Wellness Strategies we talk with many people who have landed in a place they don’t desire to be. That is not the end of the story! We have a number of tools to help you explore what could come next. The years beyond retirement can be fulfilling, purposeful, and meaningful.
How about you? How have outside influences ended up defining you? What roles do work, family, money, appearance, or belongings play in your self-description?
I know they have way more impact on my self-perception than I would like.
I had the opportunity to spend a week in one of the poorer parishes in Jamaica on a mission trip. On this second international missions journey for me, God gave me such a life-altering revelation.
We are called to, ‘Live Jesus and squeeze in life’. This is in opposition to living life and squeezing in Jesus.
You might be saying, ‘No duh’, but can you say you’re able to claim this each day? Life gets busy and demanding. Jesus is not demanding. Living Jesus requires a conscious, dedicated, disciplined decision. And this decision can be required each minute.
As I typed this last paragraph, the song, ‘Just Give Me Jesus’ by Unspoken came on the radio. I thrive on these God moments.
The Bible points us toward living for Jesus repeatedly. Here are a few examples:
Romans 12:2 ESV
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Matthew 22:37 ESV
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.
Galatians 1:10 ESV
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Matthew 6:33 ESV
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Each day is a fresh new opportunity to decide who and WHOSE we are. What will you choose?